The Woo Factor® By A. Lauren
I was g-chatting a few days ago with my homegirl in Dubai, A. Lauren, about the complexities of dating in 2008. As result of that conversation, A. Lauren and I came up with 10 tips to help men and women find that special person. I will be a gentleman and post her list first. 🙂 Let me know what u think. Shout out to A. Lauren. You can check out her blog Global Muse here. -!YG
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The Woo Factor®
A. Lauren
Top Ten Tips
1. Everybody has a dream. What’s your dream? If you do not have an answer to this question, you do not have a potential partner. Any woman worth her weight will have her own goals and a vision, and if you want her, you should too. Your goal does not have to be to become rich – we hope there is more behind your drive than dollars; but you should have some idea of how you would like your life to look, and what you would like to contribute to this world in order to win that woman.
2. Do you. Be everything you want her to be and more. If you desire a woman who is well-traveled, you need to travel yourself. If you desire a woman who is well-read and revels in the written word, you need to read for yourself as well. If you like a woman who can discuss guns ‘n’ butter, Goldman, and Bear, you need to be up on your financial game as well.
3. Get out there and do what you really enjoy – following from number 2. If you are tired of the same ol’ bump and grind, don’t do it anymore. If you don’t love going out the club every single weekend, chances are the woman you are seeking for evenings in front of the fireplace, doesn’t love that either. So do what you love. If you love photography, get out and take photos or take a class; if you like poetry – head out to your local spoken word spot; if you love people watching – go to that fountain in the middle of city, you know the one that’s the perfect place to observe others. If you go to the place where you want to be, chances are, she’ll meet you there.
4. Be honest. There is no point in pretending to be someone you aren’t or pretending to do something you don’t in order to win over a woman. In the end, if you do gain her hand, she’ll find out the truth, and more than likely the deceit will disgust her more than the thought of being alone, and you will suddenly find living without her is a more daunting task than daring to be your Self.
5. Walk the Walk. There is nothing more frustrating than a man who is constantly talking about what he is going to do, what he will do once he has enough capital, what he would do if he didn’t have these responsibilities, and what he will do once you’re together. If there is something you want – go for it. Now. A woman will respect you far more for living your dream – see #1 – than constantly talking about it. This implies to her that a) you do not know what you want b) you do not have the chutzpah to go for what you want c) you would rather wallow in your misery d) you will speak the same way about her. Life is short, live it. If you do, you may be able to do so with her.
6. Flirt. Keep it real. There is no point in delaying dessert when it comes to dating. If you are going to flirt with her once you’re an item, once you’re married, and once you have kids (which, you will if you want to be happy) flirt with her now. A relationship is supposed to be fun, and flirting is fun. It is essential to any courtship and successful partnership. In addition, one of the reasons people tempt fate and dabble in extra-marital activity, is because it is exciting…tantalizing. So in order to keep the thrill in your grill, tickle and tease your potential mate to make her yours.
7. Honor the need to breathe. In plain English, don’t be a stalker. There is nothing more endearing than a man who calls once a day, even if it just to say hello. There is nothing more off-putting than a man who bombards your email, g-chat, text inbox and telephone. Just like a good woman will always leave her man wanting more, so will a good man. Give her time to miss you. Let her believe you have something else to do besides call her. Not only is electronic-stalking annoying, it implies that you have nothing better to do, or worse, that you cannot live without her. A time may come when you cannot, if you’re lucky, but chances are if you’re living the full life you are portraying you do (see #5) that won’t be within the first few weeks of your courtship.
8. Make your mama proud. Treat the lady in your life in a way that would affirm your mother’s efforts in raising you. Behave in a manner that if your mother, your sister, or your grandmother were watching – she would approve. Although many women may initially be attracted to the daredevil or the “it†guy, she’d much rather snuggle in with a man who can show how much he cares through his actions as much as his words. Furthermore, forget the feminist movement. Although we enjoy our salaries and our independence, there is nothing like an old-fashioned gentleman. Show up with a full tank of gas. Open doors. Call when you get home. Walk her to the door. Hold her under the elbow when you are crossing the street. Walk streetside. Say ‘thank you’ and ‘you’re welcome.’
9. Follow through. Whatever it is you say you are going to, do it. Whether it is going out to golf with your buddies, going to the latest Indie film alone or taking her to Cuba, be a man of your word. This will demonstrate to your lady that you are stable and dependable. Although modern women try to negate this, it is in our history of sexual evolutionary adaption to seek a mate who can provide. Illustrating that you do what you say are you are going to do lets a lady know you are reliable and therefore worthy of being the hunter and protector for she and her offspring.
10. Embrace the Woo Factor® Don’t confuse togetherness with romance. Have some chutzpah. Make the first move. Be unpredictable. Kiss her in the middle of a sentence. Be brave. Book a surprise vacation for the two of you. Be creative. Write her a love letter. Dance with her in the middle of the room – be it packed or empty. Smack her on the rear end (after you’ve been dating). Make a candlelight dinner. Play hooky together. Make up your own language. For the two of you, make your own life.
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